So basically this is just some notes I made in my phone about Alba and my relationship as it was evolving from just an acquaintance whom I had met on a mission trip to the Texas/ Mexico border into a friendship, then courtship into an engagement then into a party to celebrate the up coming marriage, then marriage again, and it'll end with the life after marriage and why this has taken me at least two days to finish (and pretty late on the second day also.)
(03/15/16 is when I wrote the majority of this just to be sure that I could remember just what happened in our relationship and how it started before that, so keep that in mind as you're reading this.) Now it's 11/11/21 and I have filled in some of the gaps and made this easier for someone to read and see the dates of what happened.
My first communication with Alba was while I was on the POWER Mission trip at Magdiel Bible College on the
(28th
of Jan. of 2014,) this was the same day that I heard God tell me that
this angelic looking human being would be my wife. So I knew that I
needed to talk with her somehow, (and if you really know me, you would
know how incredibly shy I am when around someone that I am attracted
to.) Luckily for me the leaders told us men who were in the class to go
and ask a student if they had any prayer requests. And I was able to
muster up enough courage to go and speak with Alba. So I prayed with her
and did what was asked of us before I got down to what I really wanted.
So I asked her if she had a FB and what email she used for it. So we
started out communicating through FB Messenger for 1 year and 5 months
just chatting every so often at first, then it slowly became more and
more frequent until we were talking every day.
She gave me
permission to court her on or around 06/28/2015. And I had to look up
online what 'courting someone actually was and meant. I knew what it
meant in “theory,” but I just wanted to understand what it REALLY
meant... (I mean I knew what it generally meant, but since it was such
an old term that we don't use much anymore. And because I didn't want to
mess this up by not knowing exactly what it was, I knew that I had to
get it right. So I researched it, and made some changes in my life and
mindset and when we started dating, I began "testing our relationship''
to see if what I heard God tell me was really true that she'd be my
wife. After the first year of talking I figured out that she could be my
best friend (which is who you want to marry right?)
I
asked her to marry me where I first met her at the Magdiel Bible College
on my best friend Chris' birthday (06/02/16) (I told his mom after he
died that I'd name my first son after him.)
So we had a
"wedding party" in México on (06/16/17) to signify that we were going to
get married a month later and a little less than a month later,
we
actually have the ceremony to be married (07/14/17). Spent our
honeymoon night+2 days in the Mission Inn. We had so much fun getting
married the first time that
we had to have another
"wedding" again 5 days later on (07/19/17) in pastor Mark's office (we
misplaced the marriage certificate…) And we spent the next 6 months on
our next "honeymoon" in the Aspens apts. in an apartment that was
literally right on the lake where they had a bunch of fish and turtles
and all kinds of wild birds that would fly in and hang out by the lake
as well as having their own bird sanctuary area (a big area with birds
flying around and exercising and chatting with the other birds around.
Then we moved into our first house in Moreno Valley.
We bought our house on around my birthday in 2017, (12/15/17.)
We had our first child (Christopher Alejandro Huddleston) on 10/10/19
We had Olivia Faith Huddleston on 05/05/21
***(I'll come back to this point at the end.)
So
I have never been in this kind of relationship before, obviously, since
I'm not married yet. But one where God is at the center of EVERYTHING
that we do. But it is truly one of the greatest feelings that I have
ever felt in my life! And I just keep going back to realizing that it
was all because I felt like God was telling me something that I believed
to be just flat out “crazy!” But because I took that first step in
faith, I feel like that just means that we both NEED to always be in
prayer… And then hopefully things will always be good for us.
*** How lucky am I to have it so easy to remember the dates super easy to
remember for my kids birthdays! I mean seriously! 10/10 and 05/05! (The
hardest part about them is trying to remember the year. But I think I
can do that part almost easy. I mean for Christopher if I just figure
that 10+10=20 which is ALMOST=19. I mean it takes a lot of brain power
to remember this. Nevertheless, I hope and pray that because it is super
difficult to remember that because of this it will make it that much
easier for me to remember. And actually, that seems to work for me. Because of how much I dislike people telling me what is going to be difficult for me. I like to prove those people wrong with a great passion!
Photos will come ASAP (I've created a folder of pics needing to be approved on by "mi jefa," or in English, my boss.)
